SELF-ACCEPTANCE
See also SEXUAL REORIENTATION MOVEMENT
A piece of my mind [in which author discusses gay issues that remain unresolved
post-Stonewall -- difficulty in coming out, lack of support systems for those
who have not come out and are struggling with their feelings; the need to be
more active in providing community assistance; etc.]. By Gens Hellquist.
P50 (v7n5)(July 12, 1989): 20-21 (79cm.)
The meaning of pride? [in which author discusses a broader meaning of gay pride as
a "feeling," a sense of self-esteem; the importance of community pride
celebrations, but the need for gays/lesbians to exhibit in other situations a sense of
feeling good about themselves; etc.]. By Gens Hellquist.
P97 (v13n4)(June 7, 1995): 9 (70cm.)
Glad to be gay [in which author focusses on the many positive aspects of being gay].
By Gens Hellquist.
P99 (v13n6)(Sept. 13, 1995): 9 (57cm.)
Pride ponderings. By G.V. & K.C.
P105 (v14n4)(June 5, 1996): 6 (52cm.)
Do we believe we're equal? By Gens Hellquist.
P107 (v14n6)(Sept. 11, 1996): 6 (43cm.)
Letters [response of a rural Saskatchewan gay to article in P107, "Do we believe
we're equal?"].
P108 (v14n7)(Oct. 23, 1996): 4 (17cm.)
Off the Narrow Way [the author's journey to self-acceptance of his gayness;
his experiences with The Narrow Way organization, the goal of which is to
alter sexual orientation; author gives details of other organizations with the
same goal, including Exodus International, Love in Action, and Desert Stream
Ministries (all based in California and which the author calls "the three most
famous"), and Homosexuals Anonymous; also reference to a video and a
Web site; author concludes with message to confront "homo-haters of all faiths
who continue to oppress us" and to "continue to promote the message that being
gay or lesbian is normal"]. By Guy Vanseters.
P112 (v15n3)(April 23, 1997): 6-7 (95cm.)
Start a revolution: stop hating your body! By Garnet Woloschuk and Erin Scriven.
P119 (v16n2)(March 18, 1998): 8 (44cm.)
Bears and other creatures [in which author discusses emphasis in gay culture on youth
and beauty norms; difference of attitudes in the Bear movement in gay culture,
which author considers a healthy development; etc.]. By Gens Hellquist.
P120 (v16n3)(April 29, 1998): 8-9 (55cm.)
The uncomfortable pew [in which the author, a United Church minister, discusses her
attempt in a conversation to "separate spirituality from organized religion";
when we try to present ourselves as someone else, we send message that we
are not worthy and "perpetuate an abusive message often sent...by organized
religion"; etc.]. By Heather Funk.
P122 (v16n5)(July 29, 1998): 9 (17cm.)
Frightened by the light [in which the author discusses opinions and arguments which
have grown from the Matthew Shepard murder, denial by individuals of
complicity in the young man's murder, the need for gays to stand up and stand
out, and in general the struggle between homophobes and those supporting gay
issues; "we must begin taking our light into new places"; etc.].
By Gens Hellquist.
P124 (v16n7)[misnumbered v16n6 on contents page](Oct. 28, 1998): 6-7 (62cm.)
It's going to be a long, bumpy ride [in which author comments on various gay
community issues, including Foundation for Equal Families (gay/lesbian
rights group) announcement of lawsuit against federal government to force
legislative amendments and the attacks that will result from the radical religious
right; how few in community benefit from victories; how many in community
are in penal institutions because they can't deal with their sexual orientation;
true equality "will only come when individuals have access to support that
confirms that they are valuable human beings..."; etc.].
By Gens Hellquist.
P126 (v17n1)(Jan. 27, 1999): 4-5 (61cm.)
The uncomfortable pew [personal and motivational piece in which the author asks,
"What are you motivated by?", "What do you love and feel called to do?",
"What's stopping you?"; etc.]. By Heather Funk.
P127 (v17n2)(March 10, 1999): 7 (31cm.)
Getting naked with Ken and Jim; or, How 12 inches of plastic changed my life
[Ken and Jim being male dolls; discussion, with much humour, about body
image; both personal and general observations]. By Jeff Dodds.
P131 (v17n6)(Sept. 15, 1999): 6-7 (76cm.)
You can't scare me [concerning rising HIV infection rates, safer sex, condomless
intercourse; gay men's sexual behaviors are "part of the complex realities of
trying to survive in a hostile environment..."; need for more open discussion;
etc.]. By Gens Hellquist.
P139 (v18n6)(Sept. 13, 2000): 4-5 (80cm.)
. See also Lili Hillman letter of
correction and comment in P140 (v18n7)(Oct. 25, 2000): 10
A smorgasbord of spontaneous sex [author's account of "all those years ago when I
was but a confused young man trying to find my tribe"; "the only thing...
that I do know now, and the one thing that I wish all people who are struggling
with their sexual orientation could know, is this: it does get better, it does get
easier, and you will be okay"]. By Jeff Dodds.
P139 (v18n6)(Sept. 13, 2000): 6, 8 (62cm.)
Don't drink the water [author discusses his coming out and frequent encountering of
question of how he became gay; his impatience now with one-sided
questioning; demand that straights explain why we are denied rights; title of
article derived from report that Peruvian TV claimed water in a community
caused all men to become homosexual]. By Jeff Dodds.
P142 (v19n1)(Jan. 31, 2001): 5-6 (55cm.)
Material possessions [author describes how she has come to better know herself, how
material possessions are not of importance to her, how simplifiying and
changing her life has been therapeutic; "if it ain't working or serving some kind
of positive useful function in your life, deal with it"]. By Toni Vere.
P149 (v19n8)(Dec. 5, 2001): 6 (41cm.)
Family [author writes about issues around her coming out and self-acceptance;
"remember the people that make a difference in your life," whether they be
biological family or chosen family]. By Toni Vere.
P150 (v20n1)(Jan. 30, 2002): 6 (42cm.)
Affirmations [in which author writes of her own development towards self-acceptance].
By Toni Vere.
P152 (v20n3)(April 24, 2002): 6 (42cm.)
Bitter? Not me! [author discusses his growing up and coming out, a discussion prompted
by a question from a younger man who "seemed impressed by the fact that I
wasn't bitter"]. By Jeff Dodds.
P152 (v20n3)(April 24, 2002): 7, 9 (53cm.)
Reflections [on author's own life -- coming out, self-acceptance, and some of the matters
that have accompanied these growing processes]. By Toni Vere.
P153 (v20n4)(June 5, 2002): 6, 8 (56cm.)
What will the neighbours think? [author writes that community has made advances
towards equality and acceptance, and uses attendance at GALA Awards this year
as an example; we need to have the courage to expect a good reaction when
we come out or request what we deserve; homophobia, though, "still has
enormous power"; etc.].
P154 (v20n5)(July 31, 2002): 4, 8 (56cm.)
Takes balls to wear a dress [broad, brief discussion of clothing and conformity;
author points out that "society has placed some rather arbitrary standards
on both sexes"; "style options for menswear are extremely limited";
"the next time you see a man in a dress think outside the box....you're
seeing a hero who has the balls to publicly proclaim" his independence
and self-acceptance; etc.]. By Kelly Ries.
P161 (v21n4)(May 28, 2003): 7 (35cm.)
Missing in action: some thoughts on gender, violence and integrity [author relates
story of elderly person, "Michael," found wandering Calgary streets and who was
found to be a woman, Mary Schnaider, originally from a small Saskatchewan
town and who had disappeared in 1950; also discusses her own hospitalization in
psychiatric hospital after being raped, and meeting transgendered Chris in that
Kingston institution; social difficulties of revealing personal issues; "why not edit
one's life-story...?"; "our memories are the key to whatever integrity we can
claim"; etc.].
By Jean Hillabold.
P162 (v21n5)(July 23, 2003): 5-6, 11 (107cm.)
Porn and self-image [University of Saskatchewan psychology professor Melanie
Morrison and graduate student Becky Bradley conducting research project
on use by gay men of "sexually explicit material and several variables
pertaining to the body and sexuality"; other details; contact for those
wanting "a brief written summary of the study"].
P167 (v22n2)[misnumbered v22n1 on contents page]
(March 10, 2004): 12 (19cm.)
Raging bull / calm blue ocean [author writes about his own attitudes towards
responsibility and his different consequent reactions; there are real victims
in life, but "we live in a world where it is common to blame someone else
for our own shortcomings and failures"; etc.]. By Kelly Ries.
P169 (v22n4)(June 2, 2004): 5 (39cm.)
Simon says, "I like this" [autobiographical account of author's youth in a
a small Manitoba city; experiences of coming out and self-acceptance;
when first shown magazine photos of a naked man, he was unable, then,
to say, "I like this"]. By Jeff Dodds.
P170 (v22n5)(July 21, 2004): 6-7, 9 (106cm.)
Uh, hello! [despite all the advances towards gay liberation, and as the gay
movement has entered the fourth decade, "we still can't have a simple
conversation in an open public place without being completely guarded";
author provides a vivid and direct personal example in a meeting "last
Sunday...at the Roastery on Eighth Street"]. By Kelly Ries.
P172 (v22n7)(Oct. 27, 2004): 5 (36cm.)